A 10 Minute Lesson That May Change Your Life Forever
My breath quickens. I can practically feel my heart, as it tries to break through my chest. Nerves rush through me. My head spins with worry.
I’m panicked, thrown out of my comfort zone and don’t know what to do…
Does it matter?
It could be almost anything:
- an uncomfortable email
- an argument with a loved one
- a lost client
- an unhappy client
- a misplaced, important document
- a soon to be missed meeting, as you’re stuck in traffic.
… Could be a big ‘thing’. Could be a small ‘thing’.
All that matters is it’s come as a shock, and you’re panicking.
Considering life throws you curveballs, all the time. This is a big deal. Because unless you learn how to deal with them, you’ll forever feel lost.
As life and its ups and downs control you.
(whereas as surely the trick is for YOU to control you)
A little while ago, I wrote about something important we can all do and learn in under a minute (read that here). The short story of it is simple:
Breathing for a minute can unlock many superpowers. One of them is that it allows you to do this thing I’m about to share with you (in 10 minutes or less).
I like to call it the:
It’s something you can do the next time life throws one of its curveballs your way. However big or small it may, this will likely help. Be it good, bad or somewhere in between… this may very well help you.
Here’s how it works:
STEP 1: BREATHE
When bad shit happens, breathe (as I talk about here).
- Take a breathe.
- Take it in.
- Calm your passions.
STEP 2: CONSIDER THE OH-FUCK
Once you’ve calmed down a little, consider the worst possible outcome from said “shit thing” happening.
If the worst was to happen, how bad would it be?
Let your mind wander down dark paths if it wants to. Get it out. Worry. Feel the chaos. It’s okay, it will soon pass…
Because at this point I ask you to think about how likely it is to happen.
The worst could always happen, but the worst rarely does. So put it into perspective, and then move on to the next step.
STEP 3: CONSIDER THE OH-WOW
You may have made things worse at this stage, as you are now freaking out about the worst possible outcome. Even though there’s little chance of it happening, you’re focussed only on that.
Take another breath.
And then… think about the best possible outcome.
What opportunities “could” arise form this? What may happen, a little down the line?
- If you’ve just lost a client, could it lead to an even better one?
- If you’ve just made a mistake, could it lead to a profitable lesson?
Again, let your mind wander. Feel better about the good that can come from this. And then, once again, consider the likelihood of it:
As before, the best outcome isn’t the most likely one. But it is possible, and it’s important to remember this during those panicked moments.
STEP 4: CONSIDER THE OH-KAY
Now you know the best and worst of what may be, turn your attention to the grey in-between.
What is the “okay” outcome.
And… how likely is it?
Most often, this is what tends to happen. Not the worst. Not the best.
Just the … “okay”.
And that’s okay.
An okay, everyday life is okay most of the time :)
From here… well, it’s for you to decide.
But you’re no longer as panicked and freaked out. You’ve placed the situation into perspective and considered a few different scenarios.
Yes, the worst could happen.
But the best could happen, too.
And most likely, it will be somewhere in-between.
So, take another breath.
What should your next step be?
Be prepared for everything. To extent, plan for everything. But place your focus on the most likely. From there, do the work you need to do.
Turn lemons into lemonade. Move on. Let go. Do whatever you need to do.
All in under 10 minutes ;)